LOVE & HAPPINESS

            It is something we all desire. It is something we all need but who is really willing to work hard to obtain them? Everybody says they want it. It takes so much dedication, determination, persistence and consistency to achieve anything good. There is a lot of talk about self-love which is a great thing because that is where it all starts. How can a partner love you if you don’t love yourself? How can you love you if you don’t know yourself?

            So first and foremost, you have to spend some quality one-on-one time with yourself. You have to really understand your likes, wants, desires, needs and fantasies. Everything that you believe is not necessarily true including what your fantasies are about life. Most women believe they should go to college, marry the love of their life, have beautiful kids, live in a big house, travel across the world and live happily ever after. What happens when this fairy tale is interrupted or disrupted? How do you cope?

            There are those that find out they cannot have children. There are those that thought it was going to be a breeze to find prince charming. There are those that didn’t know how complicated it is to handle their children. There are those that discovered it is a lot of hard work to maintain the big house. It is more expensive than expected to send a family of four on vacation. These are some generic scenarios but they are definitely real.

            Most of us have our lives planned out since we were little girls. Now we have to adjust to the reality of life. We have to figure out how to balance all these responsibilities that we have. We get lost in the shuffle of being a wife, a mother, a sister, a friend, a companion, a member, an employee, a boss, etc. We get engulfed in titles and the expectations of those titles. Then you are doing everything for everyone else except for yourself. All of a sudden, you are angry, frustrated, depressed, disappointed, and hurt because your fantasy has been disturbed.

            Now the battle is between you and your ego. Do you sink or swim? Are you going to be successful at life by realizing who you are meant to be or you going to travel through life being miserable? I suggest you put up the “DO NOT DISTURB” sign. You take some intimate moments with yourself to figure it all out. Find your identity. Find you identity without all the extra factors that are attached to you. If you had little to no money at all, could you be happy?

            Things and stuff do not make up happiness. Happiness is an inner quality of peace and joy. It is blissful. It is not stressful. It is your job to be true with yourself and figure out what it is that means the most to you. You have to teach others how to treat you. It may be challenging to express these feelings to others but a part of growth is being comfortable being uncomfortable. When you love yourself others have no choice but to notice, but you are not doing it for them, you are doing it for yourself.

            You are more important than anyone. Now don’t get this twisted with being selfish because there is a difference. Self-love means you value your own well-being. You love yourself first in order to spread pure love to others and be the best you that you can be. Be in love with you!                                                                                         --PEACE &BLESSINGS!!!